The Six Parcels

As I was driving back home from work yesterday, I came across a supposedly advertisement of a coming students' camp on excellence achievements. Lousy at it may seem, I was captivated with the "6 Bingkisan" or the Six Parcel that the speaker shared at the end of it, which was exactly at the time I switched on the radio.

According to her, every parents has a very prominent role in the children's life, which is a well known fact. The same apply on the children's academic achievement. What was interesting was her summary on the 6 parcels that the parents should hold in helping the children with their academic archievement.

"Bingkisan Hati dan Jiwa" was the first parcel. She did not elaborate it, but this is the basis of every single things. This is niat or intention. And when it say niat, it mean intention with the fullest commitment and sincerely doing it for Allah. And I guess, despite the child who is the one going for the examination, I totally agree that the parents is also required to have a "hati and jiwa" that fully ready to do the same.

The second parcel was "Bingkisan Doa". Doa is prayer. And I believe, even in a non believer, they do said prayers in the time of hope and uncertainty, showing how relevant it is. Prayers is some way is a servant's "request". Sometime I had difficulty to even think what I want to request from HIM, but my parents always said, despite Allah knows everything, do said your prayers as much as you can, cause Allah like the servant to do so, for us to remind of him and praises him.

"Bingkisan Kata Kata" or Parcel of words was the third parcel. Remember that when people call you with bad name etc, and the old generation always said that if you keep doing so for 40 times, that will come true. Or people say that name of someone, the way we address someone, will have some effect on the person personality. I believe in it, and that is the third parcel consist of. The way the parents address the child, the way we called them, is important. How we wanted to scold and confront an issue must be firm but with respect, with correct words for them to understand. And "Kata-kata" also include the "encouragement" and the response to their good deeds.

Bingkisan Tahajjud and Tawakkal was the 4th and 5th parcels. I remembered that Mak always remind me and my siblings, that at any time we woke up at night or before the subuh azan, do as many tahajjud. The meaning is simple, waking up from sleep prayer-but I always felt that tahajjud means a lot more to the one who perform it. Tawakkal is dependence to god. For any effort that we had put, we must follow it with tawakkal, which truly what it means, cause after those efforts that we had done, we have no power at all to change or influence it. So tawakkal is the best way of dependence, cause Allah knows the best. I believe Allah had plan the best for every of his servant. If the outcome was not as good as we expect it to be, my parents always said, that Allah is trying to tell me something, and usually in my case, it was that I had been a bit far from HIM.

The last parcel was Bingkisan Maaf dan Redha. And the speaker agreed that this parcel is the hardest to achieve. Maaf is forgiveness and Redha is acceptance. Many people forgive, but not as many is fully redha. And yes, as she mentioned, if the parents never really redha what ever the child wrongdoings are, the "hati" of the child will not be calm, the barakah from the parents will not be delivered and the prayers will not truly be granted.

As I sit down here, not yet as a parents, I know that the six parcels is true in fact in everyday situation, in every deeds that we do. And I am lacking in most of it....